About Me

Dad and me in Old Tucson, Feb. 2020

Just a brief history…

I grew up in Hanover, MA, got my BA in Professional Writing from Emerson College, moved to Los Angeles and was a Production Assistant on Batman: The Animated Series and Animaniacs, then went to Hanna-Barbera Cartoons as a Development Assistant.

During this time I wrote nine produced episodes of such shows as Cow and Chicken, Transformers: Beast Wars, and Action Man, butttt…I wasn’t getting a lot of work writing animation so I went to Snooky’s in Ventura and became a Bikini Dancer.

Why, you ask, did I not just become a production assistant again? Because that is the job of satan….*shivers*.

After three years of Bikini Dancing (I could pick up a dollar bill with my butt, making mom and dad proud, of course), but the call of the dead pope heralded me over to the University of Reading in the U.K., where I also worked as a stripper in London on weekends to help pay for school.

After earning my MA in Medieval Studies (useful in the real world, I know) I returned to Hanover with mom and dad and worked at a little PR Firm.

Deaths CoverDuring that time I gave an academic paper on the death of Pope Boniface VIII (who, of course as you all know, died in 1303) at the International Congress for Medieval Studies in Kalamazoo, MI, where I met my future editor at McFarland Publishers.

I pitched the idea of a book on just the DEATHS of the popes, and after submitting several sample chapters to them I received a contract for my book The Deaths of the Popes: Comprehensive Accounts Including Funerals, Burial Places, and Epitaphs which was published in 2004.

During this time I also briefly danced in Providence, RI, and pitched the idea of Exotic Dancing Lessons to the Boston Center for Adult Education. My classes were waitlisted for about six months because they were so popular. So, with a loan from one of my student’s dads, I opened up Gypsy Rose Dancing in Quincy, MA which became the FIRST Pole Dancing studio in all New England.

Owning a business kept me SUPER busy from 2002-2018, although I never lost my true passion which is the history of the popes, tombs, epitaphs, symbolism, and just general death studies (I even was invited to give a Deaths of the Popes Tour in Rome, which I did-and let me tell you–if you ever want to lose weight, just pay my airfare and throw me scraps of food and I will give you the best and funniest tour of papal Rome EVER! And, because we’d be so busy dashing from one dead pope to the next, you’d lose a TON of weight. When I was there giving the tour I lost eleven pounds in ten days!).

But I digress.

The studio in Quincy is where I first saw spirit orbs flying around on camera, and I’ve used all kinds of different cameras and have literally THOUSANDS of clips of them (which I will add on this page soon). 

I would talk to them like they were my best friends (owning a business can also be very lonely and I was single, so beggars can’t be choosers, and I was happy to have them to talk to/admire me, dead OR alive).

Idiots Guide CoverAfter three years I moved the studio to 364 Boylston Street in downtown Boston, directly across from the Boston Public Garden and wrote The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Exotic and Pole Dancing (Penguin, 2007).  There I got TONS more videos of the spirts, as did my clients. 

But I was skeptical of course–every little thing that flew by in a video I DID NOT consider to be a spirit, it had to stop mid-air and go another direction, or hover, or physically go AROUND me or other objects for me to consider it something with intelligence.

That’s when the mediumship started. I never tried, it just began happening with my students. I’d get an OVERWHELMING urge to tell them about a grandparent that passed and what the grandparent was trying to tell them, etc. I HAD to tell my students if I got these feelings because somehow I knew it was my obligation to tell them.

These feelings continued to come more often and even I was incredibly surprised at the accuracy of the readings.

It took about three years for me to get up the confidence to call myself a medium, and now, in 2018, about seven years after this all started happening, I’m finally decided to really focus on my Gift and using it to help others.

Because seriously, that’s what life is all about.

Helping others and making them feel good.

Of course I still run the studio full time, and that’s where I’m able to keep working my psychic muscle as Spirit Guides and deceased friends and loved ones of my clients come through literally EVERY day!

So again, I know that owning a pole dancing studio and having been a stripper may make you skeptical of my mediumship abilities, but had it not been for my studio,  don’t believe that my Gift would have been able to develop as thoroughly as it has developed since I was about 40.

In December of 2018 I sold off what I could from Gypsy Rose Dancing and closed the studio. I wanted to focus more on the mediumship, plus I was pushing 49 years old and honestly couldn’t physically do what I used to be able to do (so weird the way your body does slow down!).

In January of 2019 I moved to Huntsville, Alabama, to be with a high school sweetheart that had been living here for about 13 years, one Alan Boothby.

He owns Big Al’s Pressure Washing  so if anyone needs any pressure washing for homes, driveways, concrete, commercial or residential, just give him a call at 256-26-1773. Plusssss…if you get a Pressure Washing job over $250, I’ll give you a free one hour reading! (Yes that was an incredibly shameless plug!)


Alan, me, and Little Alan on the train ride at the North Alabama Train Museum on Fathers’ Day!
Location 4428 Torrance Drive #5, Huntsville, AL 35816 Phone (617) 824-0349 E-mail Wendy@ButYouDidntSayGoodbye.com Hours Vary-EMAIL and TEXT are the BEST methods of contacting me. To schedule a reading, go to our Schedule a Reading page.
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